What Kindness means to me!



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Two years ago, having always said that I loved animals, and had done all my life, I actually did something that I had always wanted to do.  After shielding myself from the cruelty that I knew existed in Agriculture and particularly factory farmed animals and the dairy industry.  I became vegetarian.  This is a personal stand, and my family is not supportive.

I receive birthday cards that poke fun at my choice.  My husband accuses me of not giving him meat to eat at every meal, although he has as much access to the kitchen as I do.  When we go out for dinner, my choice causes people angst, some are even offended by it, it makes them uncomforable . They want to talk about it with a questioning look on their faces that suggests there is something wrong with me. they say “but wouldn’t you eat a nice piece of organic chicken?”  I don’t try to convert people, it is their choice to do as they wish. They feel sorry for my husband, . “But where do you get your protein from,” they ask.

I’m proud of myself for making this choice, even though it isn’t easy to maintain with so much opposition.

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I try to be kind to everyone and every living thing. One day I believe there will be a change in attitudes and animals will also live in a kinder world.  I long for that day on their behalf.


Please note I am not judging anyone else for their choices.  If you leave a comment, be kind please. This can be an emotive issue, I do not intend to offend.




19 thoughts on “What Kindness means to me!

  1. Well done you! I became a veggie many years ago, not because I think eating animals is essentially morally wrong, but how it was done. When we lived in New Zealand it was very hard as there were few alternatives but back now in the UK it’s much easier as there is masses of stuff. On a big up-side, I read once that women from countries they eat more soya tend to suffer less during the menopause and I’m convinced that’s why I’ve been breezing through it – though my husband might have a different opinion on that!

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    1. Thank you. My feeling also isn’t that eating meat is wrong but the way animals are farmed and treated is horrendous. Not a life worth living for most. I think there is a lot to be said regarding our health when finding alternatives to meat. I’m pleased your are finding menopause a breeze, I suffered rather a lot, but it’s in the distant past now thank goodness. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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  2. I am not vegetarian myself, but I do admire those that are able to make the commitment and stick to it. I am surprised that people think it is ok to question you – if it was your religion or cultural background that influenced your food choices I suspect they would not dare to do so. If I have a vegetarian coming for dinner, everyone gets a totally vegetarian meal and nobody moans about it. At least, not to my face anyway!

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    1. Thank you. I love that you make a special meal for everyone simply for your vegetarian friend. That is a lovely thing to do. I have friends who do that for me too although I don’t really expect it. My choice isn’t to make people feel uncomfortable but I feel that is their problem not mine, I would be happy to eat rice and vegetables if that was what was on offer to me. Warmly, Barbara


    1. Thank you Steve. I don’t really understand why it should bother anyone else either, but it clearly does. I don’t expect them to do what I do and their disapproval won’t change my mind. Regards, Barbara

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  3. Barbara, Thank you so much for participating! I loved this post. I’ve been plant based a little and a lot…and luckily I’ve had the support of my husband. But most people are not that supportive and I wonder why. How does it hurt anyone? I commend you on sticking to your vegetarian diet.
    Loved this post! ❤

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    1. Thank you. I thought hard about posting this because it is an issue that can bring out all sorts of negatives from people. However, as I said in my post I am happy with my choice and shall continue because it makes me feel better both physically and emotionally. Regards, Barbara


  4. Loved your post, I liked the comment below the most, that you do not judge people for their choices.
    I love animals, my best friend is an animal, He is a basset hound, named Norman.


    1. Thank you so much Alex, it isn’t always easy to make even the smallest changes in our lives and changing the habit of a lifetime is particularly difficult. Animals deserve so much better from we humans. Your Basset Hound sounds wonderful, perhaps you could share a photo of him sometime.

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  5. Sorry to hear that you’re not supported in your choice to be vegetarian. I don’t understand why some people have such a problem with the idea! I’m not a vegetarian myself – I have a fondness for bacon and a dislike of most vegetables that make vegetarian options somewhat unpleasant to me, but I’m not going to push my meat and potato diet on anyone else or look strangely on them if they don’t eat the same! If ever I can get over my vegetable dislike someday I’d become a vegetarian because there’s so many good arguments to be one whereas the only one I have for eating meat is that I really like the taste of it.


  6. Good choice to become a vegetarian. It’s hard to change eating habits. I’ve been a vegetarian and vegan for long parts of my life. Sadly, I had to give it up due to health reasons. But I still try to avoid animal products where I can. I wish more people would at least think about where there meat came from. Anyway, nice post. 🙂


  7. Thanks for sharing! I have been a vegetarian for 2 years now. My family has been largely accepting of my decision, although my mother mourns the loss of my old favorite foods. She is convinced I come to visit less often because I no longer want her chicken and dumplings.

    Stay strong Barbara, and thanks for helping to bring about that “change in attitudes [so that] animals will also live in a kinder world.”


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